When love is thwarted by the cruelty of life....

1 Corinthians 13:3-5 (Amplified Bible) 3 Even if I dole out all that I have [to the poor in providing] food, and if I surrender my body to be burned or [a] in order that I may glory, but have not love (God's love in me), I gain nothing. 4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

Recently I have been in dialogue with a couple of guys on the subject of love. It is a subject of epic interest and proportion. An inquiry into the topic of love opens the door to a universe of information, inspiration and perspiration. Love is an important topic because it is the fiber and thread of our moral tapestry, it guides the heart and shapes human destiny.

So moving on, one of my friends has a love interest that completely monopolizes his thought life. He happens to work with her and he talks to her all the time having to mask his true feelings for her. He is protecting her from the embarrassment she may feel if he reveals his true feelings for her. Yet my friend is in agony over the love he feels for her, it makes him physically sick to have such powerful feelings for her and yet she is out of his grasp because of one cruel fact, he is in a wheelchair. Being in a wheel chair isn't the main problem for him, its that he fears putting her on the spot by speaking of his love for her and the possibility of experiencing rejection. My friend lives in an assisted living facility, he is not gainfully employed and cant give her the life that he wishes he could, he loves her, but understands that it wouldn't be fair to demand something of her because she may feel motivated by guilt or sympathy to be with him. Love is risky, painful, and drives people to do strange irrational things. My friend understands the cruelty of life, he understands wanting what he cannot have. He protects this girl from the feelings has for her so that she is not scared off thereby losing the relationship completely. What a hard predicament to be in. My friend leans on God to try to salve his hear when it becomes inflamed with the pain of the love he bears that seems out of his grasp.

Have you ever experienced a love that was beyond your grasp, a love that was not reciprocated (returned) or withheld "love" yourself from someone do to fear or the unwillingness to take emotional risks? Love can be a splendid thing when its good and you've got it or it can be the most painful thing because it seems elusive to you. Fear not, love is for everybody, but it is not easy and requires patience. It is impossible to make someone love you, but it is possible to let someone use you. Let me explain, I have seen many girls give their hearts and their body's to a man that only used them for his own purposes. Girls have the tendency to indulge in fantasy when it comes to men and that influences their behaviour toward men. Men are quick to pick this trait up in a woman, its almost like an animals hunting instinct. I read a great quote recently, here it is, " A woman's heart has to be so close to God that when a man wants it he has to go to God to get it"! I have to get going now, but I will post more thoughts on this later.

Lot's of Love,

Jeremy